Tuesday, 19 July 2011

This Morning, I Was THAT Mom

It started out to be a good morning, except that I was tired (as usual) because both my monkeys woke up with nightmares last night and I was up at three o'clock and four o'clock. But aside from that (or maybe I should have seen that as a sign) things were going well. I got my son up for his summer camp (which is a special day camp, through his school, that he is going to this summer), and he was in a good mood. He was eager to go, and I was eager to get him out of the house so I could get some house work done (as much as I can do anyways, with my four year old daughter at home). And then I made a fatal mistake, when the girls came to pick him up (yes, I am super lucky, they pick him up) I told them about a book that he's been reading at the school that isn't age appropriate (it's super violent and he's only six). I let them know I didn't want him to read it anymore, and he lost it. He threw the biggest tantrum and refused to go to camp. The girls were waiting on the front steps for me to rein my son in and get him to calm down so he could go, and he wouldn't. Instead he was hitting me and saying horrible things, and causing a huge scene. I tried to keep my cool, but it's hard. I told him that he doesn't want to miss camp, he doesn't want to miss out on seeing his friends and all of the fun they were going to have today, but he wasn't having any of it. Instead he just refused and proceeded to be difficult. I finally had to send him to his room and say that, fine he wouldn't go but if he stayed home he'd have the most boring day ever with no TV, no computer, no anything.

He stomped up to his room and I told the girls I couldn't make him go. I was so embarrassed and frustrated that I started to cry (there it is). The girls were great and super understanding and they even said if he changed his mind and wanted to go, that they would come back for him (which is pretty amazing). I thanked them and of course apologized profusely. After I closed the door I sat on the stairs and really let the flood gates open, I started to bawl. Not only did these ladies see me lose it (cry), and see my son's big tantrum, but they probably also saw my messy house while they were waiting at the door. I hate being THAT mom, the one with the child that doesn't behave, the one with the child that talks back to adults and throws tantrums in public. What a crappy way to start the day. Of course not even two minutes later my son came crying down the stairs and said "I do want to go, I change my mind." But they had already left, so I had to call the school to get them to come back. And they did, they came and got him and I was thankful, but also still totally embarrassed.

I know I shouldn't be embarrassed, the people at my son's school see this kind of thing all of the time. You see, my son goes to a special school for kids with behavior issues, and my son has a few. He's just recently been diagnosed with ADHD, and he also has Sensory Integration Disorder which can affect his behavior, and he also has Stereotypic Movement Disorder, which most people have never even heard of. I don't talk about this stuff very often. When you look at my son, you wouldn't know that he has these issues. He's a good looking kid, who's bright, personable, outgoing and very chatty. But if he gets upset, look out, he just can't control his emotions yet. It's something we are working on, we his parents, and his school. There has been much improvement over the past year, which is encouraging, but these things take time. I am hoping that when he's older, life won't be so difficult, I'm hoping he will have mellowed and matured to a level where he can deal with life's problems better.

For now I take things one day at a time. For now I sometimes have to be THAT mom, the one who can't control her kid and gets emotional from the level of stress that accompanies these kinds of situations. For now I just have to try and suck it up and deal, and also try to remember that there are sometimes better, more strategic ways of getting things done (like I could have phoned the school about that particular book and they would have just made it go away, without my son even knowing that I told them he can't read it. Then that outburst would not have even happened and I would not be writing this post right now).

So there is my rant about my difficult morning. As I was writing this I was reminded of a post I read awhile back, by Shell at Things I Can't Say. She was talking about her morning of being THAT mom (a different kind of THAT, but still THAT nonetheless). I remember chuckling and thinking that I have been there too. There are so many ways to be embarrassed as a mom. It's as if becoming a parent is an immediate enrollment into the embarrassing moments club, to teach us about humility and make us more humble. I know I am a member, how about you?

Thursday, 14 July 2011

Rockin' The Baby

First there was Rockin' The Bump and now there's Rockin' The Baby, which is another great link-up by Shell at Things I Can't Say. Thanks Shell for having such a cool link up. I always love having a chance to show off my cuties, and it was also great taking a walk down memory lane and looking at all my monkeys' old baby pics. I miss the days of tiny fingers and tiny toes, and boy does time ever fly by fast!

Here is my son at five weeks
Here he is at six months
And here he is at ten months
Here is my daughter at eight weeks
Here she is at eight months
I couldn't decide on which one of these to have here, so I put them both.
Here they are together at two and a half years and nine months
And again at about three years and fourteen months
And here they are just a few months ago at six and a half years old and four and a half years old, wow have they ever grown!

So thanks again to Shell for doing this fun link-up, I really enjoyed it. Go on over and check out all the other beautiful babies at Things I Can't Say and even join up if you want. You'll be happy if you do, I know I am!

Saturday, 9 July 2011

Enviromommy Update

I really don't like apologetic posts, where people say sorry I haven't written much lately. So I'm not going to say that. What I will say, is that I will be doing things a little differently from here on in. It's the summertime and my monkeys are out of school, so I don't have as much time to blog lately. I really want to spend some quality time with them and get out and do some fun activities, like camping (which we are doing very soon). So I won't be posting here as often this summer, maybe once a week, but I will be putting up lots funny videos on my new blog Humormommy. Come check it out when you feel like a laugh, I've already got a few up and they are pretty funny. There's some old In Living Color sketches like, Fire Marshall Bill and Vera De Milo, and a super funny SNL commercial parody.

I hope you are enjoying your summer, I know we are!

Wednesday, 6 July 2011

I've Started Another Blog

With the different topics that I like to cover on my blog, I've felt torn at times about what to talk about. Should I just cover parenting topics or environmental issues? Does it mesh well to have all of my funny posts here too, or are they a little out of place? So I've decided to do a second blog. It's called Humormommy, and it will cover all of my fun video link and silly post needs. I just felt the need to take that part of my blog in a different direction. So come check it out when you get a chance. I'm not totally unpacked yet, there are some boxes still laying around, but feel free to visit. I have my first post up and hope to be posting there more often. Happy Wednesday!